Wednesday, October 20, 2010

The Room

I've been thinking a lot about when the right time is to change Lydia's room into something else. In eight days, it will be six months since she left us. So far, I've only done a few little things. My dad got me a beautiful cedar chest to keep some of her things in. I've cleaned out her dresser and closet of all her clothes and separated them. Some clothes I donated or gave to friends. Some I put in bins to keep for other possible children. Some I gave to Micah's mom who is going to make me a quilt from them. And some I've packed into boxes and put into the cedar chest. Doing her clothes wasn't too bad, because I know that if she were here and healthy, I would eventually go through all of her clothes and do the same thing.

The rest of the room is proving more challenging. I love her room. It was a joyfully laborious process to pick every little thing out - paint colors, furniture, quilts - it is my favorite room in the house. But I know it can't stay the way it is. I also know that to change it all at one time would probably be my undoing. I've started a process - I keep a small box on the changing table in her room. When I'm feeling strong, I go in and put something into the box that I want to keep for her. Once the box is full, I'll put it into the cedar chest.

Before I started this process, however, I decided that I needed to take some pictures of her room. I can't imagine ever forgetting how her room looked, but I took some anyway, just to make sure. I wanted to share some of them with you.


  1. What a beautiful room for a precious baby! Praying for you as you lovingly put away her things...

  2. Praying for you Jenn... This was a hard post to read, so thinking of you writing it...

    You did a wonderful job with her room. I think about Lydia and your family often.

  3. That is a beautiful room. You clearly loved and love your daughter so fully and completely...and that room is just one representation of that love. You write really eloquently about the grieving process.

  4. I pray for you,for strength and wisdom.I have lost a lot of loved ones but a child has got to be the greatest pain.
    This post was beautiful in that you show that there is hope beyond the pain...
    The room is beautiful,the details show how you really took your time in creating it, so take YOUR time in taking it down.
    My continued blessings and prayers to you and your family always.

  5. What a beautiful and sweet can see all the love you put into it putting it together for Lydia! Praying for you for comfort and strength as you make this journey through her room <3